Selecting Your Wedding Party

Your wedding party, the groomsmen, bridesmaid and children involved in your special day are an important part of the entire process. These are people who should love you and support your upcoming marriage. These are also people you will turn to for help, love and who will be there for you in your time of need. Choosing who you want to be in your wedding may be easy but then it might not be easy as well because with weddings come family politics, the logistics of numbers and even financial concerns. Here are some tips on how to choose your wedding party so you can have the best group possible and try to make as many people happy as possible while maintaining your own sanity and sticking to your guns.

Make a list
Write down all the people you think of when thinking about who you would like to stand beside you as you say “I do.” There are probably one or two people that instantly come to mind and one of these people will likely be your maid of honor or best man. Write down everyone you are considering and put them in order of importance of your preferred order.

Talk with your significant other
Sit down and compare your lists. See one of you has ten people and the other two. Obviously you’ll see where you need to go from there in your talks. Go through each person and talk about them to make sure you both will be comfortable and happy with each individual. Your future spouse may also be able to shed some light on or point things out about certain people and situations.

Think about family politics
If you and your future spouse have siblings you will likely want to include them in some way. If you’re not close to them you may not want them in the wedding party but instead give them another role in the wedding such as doing the guest book, giving a reading or some other special part. This will make the parents happy as well as make them involved.

Consider logistics and financial constraints
If a person lives on the other side of the world they may not be able to participate in all the wedding events and you have to decide whether or not this is an issue with you. Others may not be able to afford the cost of the attire or other events involved in the wedding. If you can pay for them then it’s not an issue but you can’t than it could be a real concern. Also if you have ten people and your significant other has two you may need to come to a compromise so things look somewhat even at the wedding.

Ask your prospects
Once you’ve narrowed down your lists and make some choices ask the people. Someone may not want to be in your wedding for whatever reason and you’ve just lost a person off your list.