How to Propose to Him (Your Boyfriend)

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So your thinking about proposing to your boyfriend...Chances are you probably have been dating for a while maybe 3 or 4 years, but he still hasn't took the initiative. Before you actually take the plunge, be sure you both are ready and give thought to the fact that what if he isn't ready? What i'm trying to say is don't press the issue too early where you may take away his chance to propose or surprise you.

There are some times when it is a good idea to propose to him due to certain circumstances.

1. If he tried to propose to you in the past and you were not ready at the time.

2. Have you been unexpressive in your relationship where it makes him hard to read you?

3. Are there children involved where it might make him hard to know if you want to enter into another relationship?

Of course there are other reasons, but think clearly before you make the decision to propose or not. If you are certain, then here are some helpful tips.

1. Preparation stage: getting a sense about your boyfriend

Remember that proposing is not about your dream proposal but THEIR dream proposal. This goes double duty for when guys propose girls. So a key question to ask yourself is how would he like to be proposed to?

Your proposal should be unique and suited for his personality. If he is old fashion or has traditional views you need to be extra careful as it could be a bad idea. However, for an easy-going individual it could be the proper choice. Be prepared for the event that is about to take place and take pre-cautions. If you are ready articles and blogs you are on the right path.

2. Symbolism: to buy a ring or not to buy a ring?

The ring issue is always a tough subject. When you are proposing to him, don't expect that he will automatically buy you an engagement ring. Instead of giving rings you could give him something else that is symbolic such as an I.D bracelet. If you are planning to give him a ring, make sure you know his style and size. Either way, you have to decide on a symbol, opt for the rings, or go in empty-handed. If you go empty-handed, then you could go ring shipping together later.

3. Planning the proposal

Think your proposal through, how you are going to do it, the meaning behind it and all the details. Remember that the proposal is about him and not you. You can either make it private or make it public.

Don't make it too complicated where things could go wrong. Take into account traffic, weather, props, schedules and reservations, or or running through it with other people if they are going to help you. Decide if you want to contact his parents and get their blessing or their permission. Be prepared to answer questions that they may ask you based on your choices.

4. Execution: Ask away!

Obviously the execution where it makes it all come to life and worth-while. If you did your planning, the execution shouldn't be a problem with the exceptions of some stomach butterflies of course. Whether you want to get on your knee or not is up to you, but it is a very nice gesture regardless of gender.

When you are proposing and popping the question. Do it romantically but realistic. Take the time to say a few sentences on why you want to marry him. It may be wise to explain why you are proposing to him, but whatever you do don't insult him such as saying that he may never have proposed if you haven't.

Read some additional proposing guidelines that are written for men since they are so readily available and take them into account.

Make it meaningful, good luck, and have fun.