Asking Special People To Be In Your Wedding Party
Posted by Mary Frederick (Mar 22,2009)
You want to share your good news with the world--you're engaged and you are on cloud nine! One of the more exciting aspects of planning your wedding can involve asking people to be in your wedding party. This can and should be an honor and full of excitement for both you and the special people you are asking. It can however involve a bit of stress if you struggle to figure out who is in and who is out.
First and foremost, this is an area that you should decide as the bridal couple. People (namely parents) may have more input than you care to hear, but take it with a grain of salt. This is your wedding party and ultimately your decision, so you don't have to take the word of anybody else. The bridal party is yours to form, so choose wisely.
You want to remember that there are certain responsibilities attached with being in a bridal party. That being said, you want to pick family and friends that are going to be dependable and who you know will take the role seriously and with honor. You don't want to have to worry about relying on them to get their fittings or pick things up the week of, so consider this in your decision making process.
Be sure that when you do ask, you do so in a fun way. If you are asking somebody from out of town, be sure to make them feel a part of things from the beginning with a call right away. If you are asking friends or family in town, then be sure to do so face to face so you can make it truly special. Make it a cause for celebration!
Provide all the details up front so that you're sure not to run into any scheduling nightmares. Tell all bridal party members the date and any other details. Be sure to fill them in along the way!
If you have somebody that is special to you but don't have room for them in the bridal party, come up with a unique and special role. Have them do a reading at your ceremony, say a special blessing or give a speech at the reception. Put them in the spot light in a different way and they will still know how special they are to you!
Your Author is Mary Frederick
Mary is a writer with years of experience, much of it within the wedding industry. Mary has event planning experience in her background and has written many articles about weddings and all of the aspects involved with planning one. Mary has been involved in the planning of several weddings, including her own. Mary can offer a first hand perspective and some great tips to make your wedding planning process much easier and enjoyable.
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Orsolya Says: Deciding who will be in the bridal party stresses many, I'm sure. I'm not even engaged yet but still worry about whose feelings I will hurt. And I think that's probably what many brides struggle with, is trying not to leave someone out or hurt feelings. I like your idea about including some one special by having them read something or giving them a role. Posted on Mar 24,2009 @ 2:30 PM EST |